I Love You, But Jesus Loves You More

I Love You, But Jesus Loves You More

An open letter to my friends who don’t believe


We’ve been friends for years so I’m sure that you know I love you. I’m not sure that you know the whole story though. Do you know that I pray for you? Do you know that I cry for you? Do you know that I’ve laid awake at night thinking about you? Do you know that I have begged and pleaded with God to save you? Do you know that I hope and pray that every time I see you or talk to you that you’ll see Jesus in me?

It’s no secret that I’m a Christian, but I don’t always do the best job of sharing what that really means. There’s a whole book dedicated to explaining Christianity – the Bible – and there’s probably thousands of other books out there trying to explain it further. For today, I don’t need all of that though. I just need one word – LOVE. That’s the simplest way I can explain it. God loves me, and I love God, so I love you.

When you tell me that you don’t believe in Jesus – whether you come right out and say that or not – it breaks my heart. I don’t mean in the melodramatic, over-exaggerated way that a lot of people use that phrase. I mean in the pain in my chest, knocks the air out of my lungs, I’m going to have a gut-wrenching cry about this when you’re not around sort of way. I tell you that I love you anyway – because I do, and nothing you could ever do or say would change that. But there’s so much more that I want to say.

I’ve spent quite a long time thinking about what I would say to you if I could truly speak my mind and tell you how I feel, but it all just seems so inadequate. I’m going to give it my best attempt though.

As much as I love you, Jesus loves you infinitely more. He loves you so much that He died for YOU. He willingly laid down His life so that you would be able to experience the glorious, unexplainable feeling that you can only get from truly being loved by the creator of the universe.

I know that you readily accept my love for you. You know I love you, but do you know – truly know deep within your soul – that Jesus loves you? I don’t think you do, because if you did know the extent of His love for you then you wouldn’t reject it.


WHY do you reject His love?


Is it because you’ve been hurt?

I’m sorry that you’ve had bad experiences with the church and Christians in the past. I know that for a group of people who are supposed to love others as one of our top priorities we can be mean and hateful sometimes. I wish I could take away that pain for you, but I can’t so I offer up an apology from the bottom of my heart. We’re a group of broken, sinful people just trying to do the best we can, and a lot of times we fall short.

Don’t hold us against Jesus! We are an imperfect representation of a good and perfect Savior.


Is it because you don’t think you’re good enough?

The world has been feeding you lies. It may go against everything you’ve ever learned – maybe even against human nature itself – but you don’t have to do anything to earn God’s favor. In fact, you can’t do anything because it’s already been done for you.

“For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.” – John 3:16

That’s it. End of story. All you have to do is believe.


Is it because you think you’d have to give something up?

I get this, I really do. A lot of times Christians act differently. Maybe you’ve even realized that I act differently than I used to. But it’s not because we’re forced to follow some crazy set of rules that make us miserable. It’s because we’ve experienced the things of this world, and maybe even enjoyed those things at one time, but now we’re experiencing something so much better – the love of Jesus. I can honestly tell you that nothing I have ever experienced comes close to the pure joy of being in the presence of God. And because I’ve put my faith in Jesus, I get to continue experiencing that joy long after my life on this earth is over.

There’s just one thing that could make eternity in heaven even better – if I knew that you’d be there too.


Part of this letter is written in selfishness – I’m only human after all. As much as I love our time together here on earth, it’s tainted by the heartbreak I mentioned earlier. I’m heartbroken because I know that if you don’t accept Christ our time together will one day end. I’m heartbroken because I don’t want you to miss out on the best experience you could ever have in this life and the next.

I don’t say all this because I judge you, but because I love you. I don’t ask you to come to Jesus because I condemn you, but because I want so much more for you.

Even if it doesn’t happen today, tomorrow, next week, or next year. This will always be my prayer for you – that you will come to love and accept Christ so that you can experience the same joy that I have.

Just remember that no matter what, I love you…but Jesus loves you more.


Kristin PottsKristin is a wife and mother of two fur babies, who lives in Princeton, WV. She has a passion for Jesus and reading, which she put together to found the Biblical Wives Book Club. She seeks to encourage other young wives to maintain strong, Christ-centered marriages through a community of women who support each other as women of God.

Favorite Scripture:  

“Do not merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says.”    – James 1:22

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  1. Bree Blum

    Raw and vulnerable and full of so much truth, it’s beautiful! I love how you give the reminder that you (I/we) don’t say this because we judge or condemn, but simply because we live so much that we don’t want to experience heaven without then. Beautifully said!

    Thank you for your bravery! ❤

    1. Kristin Potts (Post author)

      Thank you for your words of encouragement! This certainly wasn’t an easy post to write.

  2. Gayl

    Beautiful sentiment here. Love really is the best way to reach out to those who don’t know Jesus and don’t understand. Thank you for sharing your heart and showing how much love you have for others. Blessings to you! I’m your neighbor at #ThoughtProvokingThursday.

    1. Kristin Potts (Post author)

      Thank you Gayl. Love is truly the best way to bring others to Jesus since Jesus was love. Thanks for visiting!


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