This week we’re reading chapter 11 of Balancing It All by Candace Cameron Bure. This chapter covers a topic that I have rather limited insight on – education options for your children. I’ll be honest, I didn’t expect to cover this topic in a book on balancing your priorities, but I guess it makes sense that parents should make their children’s education a priority.
While I don’t have any children yet, I can attest to the fact that Candace spoke truth when she said, “…many people start planning out their children’s education even before they are born.” Yep, that’s us. We’ve been talking about education options for our kids since before we were even married (maybe even before our engagement, I’m not sure of the exact time frame). As Taylor has been looking at job options in various cities, I’ve been scoping out Montessori Preschools – yes, I’m going to be that mom. I think the reason for that is that my parents always put a huge emphasis on my education.
From preschool through my master’s degree, I attended 9 different schools. On average I only stayed at a given school for 2 years. My parents definitely subscribed to Candace’s school of thought that “As with most things, in life, schooling options can always be open to reevaluation.” I can appreciate what my parents tried to do for me in putting me in the schools they thought would give me the best education, but after bouncing around so much, my goal is to be settled in the area that we plan to stay in by the time our first child is in elementary school. I know that some kids are completely fine moving around a lot, but that just wasn’t the case for me. I’m quite jealous of my husband’s upbringing; he was in school in the same school district with the same kids from kindergarten through the end of high school.
That brings me to another point that Candace makes in this chapter; “No one type of schooling is ‘right’ for all families or all kids.” No one knows your kids better than you do, so no one will be able to tell you what is best for your kids. What’s right for your best friend’s kids might not be right for your kids, so don’t allow yourself to get lost in comparisons.
As with everything else in this book, Candace emphasizes that we are all different and live unique lives. While she may not give specific answers on which options are right in which situations, she does point us in the direction of the One who can give us those answers. “It’s up to each individual family to decide where God wants them to be and to determine which school will best help their kids become the kind of people they want them to grow up to be.” As always, I encourage you to go to God in prayer when you’re unsure which option is best for you and your family.
I know that most of my readers are young wives, and some of you don’t have kids yet so it may seem like it’s rather early to start talking about education options for young kids (or kids who haven’t even been conceived yet!), but I want to challenge you to start the conversation. If you and your hubby haven’t talked about your education goals for your kids yet, there’s no time like the present! If you discover you aren’t exactly on the same page, you’ll be thankful for the extra time to come to an agreement when your kids are ready for school decisions.