What if the worst happened? It’s a question that most of us would probably rather not think about, but in chapter 11 of Messy Beautiful Love, Darlene brings it to the forefront of our minds. In this chapter, she shares a story from a fellow blogger who lost her husband suddenly and unexpectedly. Both times that I read this chapter I had to hold back the tears. There’s nothing like hearing a story about someone else’s loss to make you look at things in a new light.
This story isn’t all about loss and sadness though. In the months before her husband’s death, God gave this woman a beautiful gift – perspective. In a post she wrote just 3 months before his passing, this blogger said:
I used to get so mad when my hubby didn’t act how I wanted him to or do what I wanted him to, but when you are just thankful for one more day with him; it makes the little things seem less important. Yes, I still occasionally whine about rubbing his back. I still grumble to myself when I pick his dirty clothes up off the floor…but in my mind I constantly hear “be thankful for the stuff because it means he’s still here with you.”
Perspective is everything!
There will always be things that bug you about your spouse, but in their absence…would those things actually be that bad?
Wow, that’s some powerful stuff isn’t it?! I don’t know about you, but that really makes me stop and think twice about those things that get under my skin.
So today I want you to stop and ask yourself that question that we’d rather not think about: What if the worst happened? Would those things that drove you crazy today really be a big deal? Would those things that you whine about doing for your hubby turn out to be the things you missed the most?
Wouldn’t it be better for your heart, your attitude, and your marriage if you chose to focus on the things about your hubby that you’re thankful for rather than those little things that bother you? Start your list right now. What are you thankful for? His generosity, kindness, sense of humor?
The blessings we take for granted are gifts from the heart of a compassionate God who knows us intimately and cares for us deeply. Gifts can be anything from the smell of a newborn’s skin to the way your husband smiles at you. Each and every blessing has been handcrafted by the Creator Himself. Get a little notebook, and start keeping a gratitude journal. Then take a few minutes out of each day to record your many blessings.