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As I was reading this week’s chapters of The Power of a Praying Wife, I noticed a recurring statement that I’d read in several previous chapters. Stormie shares with us yet again that she used to try to use her own words and actions – nagging – to change something about her husband. I can’t imagine that any of you will be shocked to hear that it didn’t work. After she began her journey of praying for her husband, things began to change. When she’d nagged him about working out and being healthier, he had no interest; but very soon after she started to pray about it, she heard a strange noise coming from the next room – the treadmill! So what’s our lesson this week? When nagging doesn’t work, PRAY!
You may have noticed that I didn’t say IF nagging doesn’t work – no, I said WHEN nagging doesn’t work, pray. Let’s be honest ladies, does nagging ever work? In my experience the answer to that question is NO. If we’re nagging our husbands, then our heart most likely is not in the right place. We turn to nagging when we’re frustrated and fed up with something. I doubt that any of you turned to nagging the first time that he put a dish in the sink without rinsing it. The nagging probably came after the fiftieth time you found last night’s dinner stuck on his plate.
Even when we get frustrated with something our husbands are doing, we have to remember what is and isn’t our job in the situation. As you may know, I’m reading through the Bible in 2016 and I finished Leviticus last week. If you’re not familiar with it, that’s where God lays out all of the laws he wants the Israelites to follow. After reading it, I can guarantee you that not once does He say “Thou shalt nag your husband until he changes his behavior.”
What we are called to do is pray for our husbands. 1 Thessalonians 5:17 tells us to “pray without ceasing.” If something is bothering you so much that it’s causing you to nag, you’re probably thinking about it without ceasing. So what a perfect opportunity to react to it in love! Instead of nagging him about the things he does that frustrate you, pray about them! I’d like to challenge you to give this a try this week. Remember, when nagging doesn’t work, pray about it!