Week 5 – God’s Promises in Marriage
You and Me Forever
Chapter 5: Is There Hope For Us?
Living at home with a young child, there is always a slough of chores & responsibilities to tend to. Laundry, groceries, bills, meltdowns, discipline, dinner, dishes, bedtime, and the fatigue that can come with it all. Even if you aren’t in the season of children, it’s SO easy to become distracted by the temporary isn’t it? There are many things that bide for our attention that we can become weary in doing good and our meditation on the eternal things can get side tracked.
“Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.”
I’ll admit, this entire book (really, my pride and hard heart) has been difficult to swallow. At the end of the day, I find it hard to show love to my husband in a way that reflects and speaks God’s love to his heart. The expectations I have towards my spouse are distorted and not aligned with an eternal perspective. It’s easy to demand certain expectations from our spouses, when we feel our needs aren’t being met or when life isn’t going as we had hoped it would (the temporary).
“If we want our marriages to be healthy, we have to first believe God’s promises and look to Him before we look to our spouses.” – Lisa
When I think of marriage, the first thing I think of are wedding vows. We’ve all heard them over the years, and with those vows often come many promises. “I promise to be your faithful partner in sickness and in health, in good times and in bad, in happiness as well as in sadness. I promise to love…” How do we begin to view our marriage in light of God’s promises, which would far outweigh any promise we could ever vow to our spouses?
If I am looking to my spouse for true joy & fulfillment, I will be sorely disappointed. Instead, we are to focus and walk in confidence of His promises. How do we do that exactly?
Our perspective needs to shift, constantly. If our mind is currently focused on today’s troubles, humbly come back to the feet of Jesus, pray, and get into His Word.
Is our sight on Christ and things eternal or are they focused on today and what is only temporal? Can we walk in light of God’s faithfulness as we wait for Him? We sure can. Because God promises that whatever we “sow” into our marriages, we will also reap a harvest of that sowing.
“Do not be deceived: God is not mocked, for whatever one sows, that will he also reap. For the one who sows to his own flesh will from the flesh reap corruption, but the one who sows to the Spirit will from the Spirit reap eternal life.”
We also have His Holy Spirit. Keep coming to Jesus and ask for His Holy Spirit to guide you as you walk in anticipation of heaven. Spend time in earnest prayer for your spouse. Be specific and honest.
“I don’t want to sound dramatic, but prayer changes everything! Prayer opens up that line of communication with the Holy Spirit.” – Lisa
The biggest struggle I’ve had in my seven years of marriage to Chris is my warped view of what role I thought he was to play ever since I said the words, “I do.” Of course he is my help-mate and it’s a blessing and a joy to walk this messy road together with him. Reading this book has helped me realize that it’s not my spouses job to do what only Christ can do.
In what ways do you look to your spouse for needs that only God can fulfill? In what practical ways can you find more time to connect and communicate with the Holy Spirit as you reflect and meditate on God’s promises?
Samantha is a wife and mother to an energetic three year old named Elena and is expecting her second child in late July. She resides in West Virginia and is a stay-at-home Momma. In her spare time, she enjoys creating jewelry, art/freelance work, and enjoys going to the park and playdates with her little girl.
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